i was thinking of this phrase that goes along of ' learning to love urself b4 u love others'. have heard this phrase v often.. but what does it really mean?

http://www.planetmagnus.com/why-you-must-first-love-yourself.html

"If you like yourself, you will like the people you naturally meet, and they will like you. If you don’t like yourself, you will waste energy trying to get with people who aren’t like you, or you will settle for being with someone you don’t like.

There are two solutions to this. The first, and most important, is to learn to like yourself. The second, is to turn yourself into the person that you want to be.
If you want to like yourself, one way to do it is to realise that you are the perfect You that anyone could be. No-one else can do the things you do quite like you. No-one sees the world quite the same way. No-one has precisely your talents, ambitions, or lack thereof. No-one screws things up the same way, no-one makes the same mistakes and faux pas’. At being you, for all your faults and weaknesses, you would get an A+. It’s ok to be the way you are - it must be, because the way you are IS the way you are.

Once you adopt this philosophy or one like it with regard to yourself, you will start seeing others the same way. The truth is, you probably are attracted to the opposite sex equivalent of you, it’s just you’re also turned off to them, for the same reasons you’re turned off from yourself. Accept yourself, and you will accept them.

Many people think that their drive to improve themselves stems from the things they don’t like about themselves. Feelings of inadequacy, dissatisfaction, or just dislike and hatred for yourself actually won’t change, no matter how much you improve yourself. It is the feeling that needs to be dealt with, not whichever reason you rationalise at the time for feeling it.

Once you accept yourself you will realise your true motives for wanting someone you can’t have. If you want to be with them to compensate for your own shortcomings, you will no longer want them. If you want them because you want to be like their ideal partner, then you will become that person. So there is never a need to change yourself for someone else."

then again.. it doesnt really occur to me if i like myself ( then the above would be totally irrelevant.. or i am just blabbing rubbish).. i do accept the way i am .. but in one way or other. i am more bothered abt pple's opinion towards me .. especially when they are closer family and friends. its sad to disappoint them, and i try not to set too high hopes.. i just cant stand being a wallflower in the corner.. i must somehow make a musing of myself.. laugh or be laughed at. i am not all that good for nothing.. just that there are tons of pple out there better than me.. and i noe its no good at all to wallow in sorrow all day..perhaps i thought its easier for everyone that way to think of so and so to be not so gd.. non threatening.. and perhaps in someway 'degrading' to oneself.. but there is not much affect on oneself right? i am heartened when one was sad abt me being so pesstimistic abt myself.. the way i invite critisism on myself.. always thought thats the easiestbut not really the best way-for-oneself in a conversation...

its true.. all talk .. but no effort is seen.look at it simply 40 appts a month.. 10 appts a week. in the last 6 months. i am nowhere near that. give me 40 creative ads to do a month. i think i can do better.. i prob need to dig out that fighting spirit in me.. something that tells me that i am worth much more than that.. and stop living on in my comfort zone.